Unpack each of these elements for your counselee. Teach him how to apply Christ’s counsel to those whom they have failed to love. 11. Help them identify those persons to whom their selfishness has been most obnoxious and encourage them to begin demonstrating genuine love to those individuals. And Zaccheus stopped and said to the Lord, ‘Behold, Lord, half of my possessions I will give to the poor, and if I have defrauded anyone of anything, I will give back four times as much.’ ” Luke 19:8 First,